We all know that women and men have very different brains and therefore approach relationships quite differently.  Often times women try to be something they aren’t and appear “perfect” when she begins to date a man.  In this case, men and women are not so different.  Men are bombarded with advice of what to do and what not to do when it comes to women and dating.  They might act a certain way or say a certain thing because they think you want them to. Newsflash, many techniques that men think are working in their favor, are actually sabotaging their chances with a woman altogether.  Take a look at these 9 things men think are working for them, and women wish they would quit!

1. Constantly call her

Although women love attention, there is actually a limit to the amount of contact we crave.  Too much calling and texting can make men look obsessive and dependent.  Typically women want a man who is independent and strong, not someone who is constantly calling her to accept his every move.  If you can’t remember the last timeshe called you, then it’s time to put down your phone and slowly walk away.  Your manlyhood depends on it.

2. Show emotions

Most men have heard time and time again that women want a sensitive man, so they decide to open the tear ducts every time she’s around. Wrong. Crying makes men look too emotional and needy, possibly even unstable. Women want to be with someone who has an aura of strength and the ability to protect her, and too much crying definitely cuts down the manly favor.  Unless something very tragic happened and your tears are genuine, ditch the crying act. Being sensitive to her needs is important but crying is not.

3. Too much PDA

Public Displays of Affections.  Everyone has their own tolerance towards and it; some women love hugging, kissing, and canoodling on a park bench, while other women would rather die than give tongue in public.  The issue here is when men take the plunge and initiate a make-out session if she has clearly shown no interest.  Every couple should decide how they like to show of their relationship in public, and if he’s always pushing the envelope, then she will likely push him to the curb.  Being embarrassed in public can be horrifying, especially if it’s a slobbery dog (your man) pouncing all over you.  Friends and family are sure to comment, and when they’re opinions are loose, it can be trouble.

4. Baby talk

Sure, men can have the odd pet name and cute inside joke with this girlfriend or wife, but leave it at that. Unless she baby talks first and gives a strong indication that she likes that kind of thing, men should decide to ditch it entirely.  It is cheesy, silly, and nausea-inducing. Baby talk is for babies, so don’t do it to her… at least in public.

5. Too agreeable

Yes, it’s important to let women pick the movie once in a while, but if men find themselves watching Dirty Dancing for the 10^th time, or romantic comedies every weekend, they might have a problem.  When men lack the ability to make their own decisions, and ask permission from their partner, a mother-child dynamic will quickly develop.  Women don’t want to feel like their boyfriend’s mother and will definitely put them up for adoption if that feeling stays.  It’s important for men to show that they are capable of making decisions and stand up to the plate and pick the movie, the restaurant or the television show once in a while. After all, that’s the basis of compromise, sometimes the woman decides and sometimes the man does.

6. Too close with her family and friends

A man’s relationship with his girlfriend’s family and friends is something that has to develop over time. Being cordial and friendly is important, but he shouldn’t go planning her brother’s birthday party if they’ve only been together for a month.  While women want their man to be friendly with her family and friends, she doesn’t want them to jump the gun either.In the early stages of a relationship, she’ll want to make sure things are working between the two of them before bringing her family and friends into the mix.  We all know the flood gate of opinions that will open if your girlfriends and parents start nit picking your new flame.  Take a second to realize if he is really important to your life, and then ease him into the madness.

7. Profess your love too soon

Men think that the way to a woman’s heart is through an “I love you,” which is not completely off base. But such a declaration made too early, or way too often, will only freak her out. There is a time and place for everything. Men should not say it because they think it will impress their girlfriend.  It’s more important for a woman to hear it when he means it, not because he feels pressured into saying it.  Men seem needy if after the first date they are dropping the L word and inviting themselves in to meet the parents.  Slow down and let true feelings happen organically.

8. Over confidence

Men know that women like a confident men.  And men, being who they are, sometimes take this notion and run with it.  “If she likes me to make decisions and act like a man, then she’ll love when I tell her how awesome my house is and how many girls wanted me in college.”  Wrong.  There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and women are typically not attracted to a bragger.  Why would she want to hear about his past relationships or how great he did in school or how much money he made in his recent bonus at work?  This type of bragging usually circles around to a deep sense of insecurity and confidence issues.  Women want a confident man, not a weak little boy hiding behind bold, smarty-pants comments.

9. Chatty Chatty

Although most men have been taught that women like men who can talk and share, it goes both ways.  No woman wants to spend an entire date listening to her man’s life story and deep feelings.  It’s important to have conversations, not lectures! Incessant blabber will annoy any woman sooner or later and will steamroll her opportunities to open up, or share something important.  Talking is important, but listening is necessary.
source: MadameNoire

I’ve often wondered how to flirt online. I read up, got some practice, and now I consider myself an online flirting expert! Just like there are rules for flirting in the real world, I have some ideas to help you become the world’s best online flirt. Here are 7 tips on how to flirt online. Let’s go!

1. GO ACTIVE ALL OVER!

Why limit yourself to flirting on Facebook or Twitter or eHarmony when you can flirt online all over! Set up a profile on a few different dating websites (I recommend OKCupid and Fellody) and use them, along with Facebook and Twitter, to flirt all over the web!

2. BE YOURSELF!

Flirting isn’t any fun when you’re struggling to maintain a made-up persona, so do yourself a favor and just be yourself!

3. BE LIGHT

Flirting isn’t supposed to be serious discussion. It’s supposed to be light, fun, friendly, and (often) giddy. Don’t talk about anything that could lead to a serious discussion, unless you’re willing to put the flirting on hold to talk about the debt crisis in Europe or last night’s GOP debate.

4. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

Like any other talent worth mastering, flirting takes practice. When you start your career as a world-class flirt, you might be a little nervous, or make a few little mis-steps, but these can be fun, too. Don’t worry! You’ll get better, and become more confident, with time.

5. USE THE EXTRA FEATURES

How many of you have used the “poke” feature on Facebook, or the “wink” option on OKCupid? These little options are a great way to start an innocent flirtation, especially if you’re just not bold enough to send a message yet.

6. SET VERBAL BOUNDARIES

There are some times when flirting online can get creepy, and if and when that happens, it’s okay to end the flirtation. Before you send your first “poke” or drop your first “wink,” think about what sorts of flirting you’re going to accept, and where you’ll draw the line, then stick to it, and don’t feel bad, even for a moment, about it. Sure, you run the risk of being called a bitch or a tease, but who cares? Any guy who’s going to push those boundaries isn’t worth considering anyway.

7. SET PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES

Along with the verbal boundaries you’ve set, think about whether or not you’ll consider meeting any of the guys you’re flirting with online, and if so, how. For safety’s sake, of course, never agree to meet a guy at his or your own house (until you know them quite well) and opt for a public meeting instead (like at a coffee shop). In fact, you might not even want to share your phone number oremail address right away… and you may want to think about running a criminal background check before you meet someone in person.

See? Flirting online has the potential to be even more fun than flirting in person!