10 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in My First 30 Years

By
Adam East
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Many people cringe as they approach the age of 30. For some reason, these milestones tend to get people thinking: Am I old? What should I have done differently? Am I really happy with this person I married?

Second guessing is normal and I don’t have to remind you of the 20/20 hindsight rule. However, as I approach 30, I’m taking a different tact. I am viewing age as a positive simply because I have learned a ton of lessons that not only help define me, but will make future years enormously successful – emotionally, professionally, and socially.

Often times we don’t realize how powerful our lives can be until we reflect and share our experiences. That is why I took some time to write and submit this article; I want to reflect on my life and be sure to enjoy the lessons learned instead of regretting whatever outcomes I didn’t like at the time.

So here goes!

 

Life Lesson #1 – Let it go.

Anger is never just anger. Anger is a cover up for fear, hurt, or disappointment. I can’t tell you the number of days I stressed myself out in my 20’s because I was angry at another person and did not want to forgive them. I literally made myself sick over it. The ironic thing about anger is that the joke is on the angry person. When you’re angry, it hurts you more because you have to spend your precious time and energy holding on to negative energy. Sadly, that negative energy often blocks the positive energy from coming into your life. So let it go so that you can let that positive light in.

Appreciate the person that you’re angry with and learn to live with them the way they are. If someone is constantly upsetting you, appreciate the fact that you are strong enough to disassociate yourself from them. You don’t need to stick around!

 

Life Lesson #2 – It’s really not about you.

When loved ones, co-workers, or even strangers say and do hurtful things, many times it is really not about you. People in this world have some serious issues. And, because they don’t deal with their issues, they project those issues onto you. The mother who thinks she is the worst mom will project and tell another mom how bad their kid is. The teen who thinks she is ugly will project and make fun of another teen. The boss who can’t manage his team will try to micromanage your work. So the next time someone does something hurtful to you, remember two things, they act like that towards other people as well, and it’s not about you!!

 

Life Lesson #3 – Others have gone through the same problems that you have today.

This is one I am still working on because I am a pretty private person. But I have to believe that when you go through things, one of the main reasons is to help others at one point and time through the same obstacle. The problem is that everyone wants to put on the mask that their life is grand, secretly hiding away any perfections. If no one knows your true journey, they can’t seek you out for help. It’s not an easy thing to do; it’s not like your Uncle Joe shouts out to everyone ‘Hey Everyone, I’m in foreclosure, now let’s eat.’ BUT, if he did, he would attract others that have been through the same experience, and could change a life for the better.

 

Life Lesson #4 – Enjoy it now.

As I look back at my last 29 years of life, there were so many special moments that came and went. I wish I would of sat back and enjoyed the moments more. Absorb the good times because they are the first things you forget.

 

Life Lesson #5 – Power of Persistence

There is something about the power of daily focused effort that seems to be a common theme in successful people. It’s the difference between ball players and NBA players, the difference between a writer and an author. While everyone else is watching TV the ‘persisters’ are making daily deposits towards the life of their dreams. Are you? When I look back, the times that I felt most accomplished were when I applied daily effort towards a goal and achieved it.

 

Life Lesson #6 – I get it now when people talk about having passion as a requirement for excellence.

If you want to excel as a fashion designer, working towards that goal should generally win over other other distractions. When presented with the opportunity to watch TV or hang out with friends instead of working to, if you constantly choose those distractions over working on fashion, you must consider that fashion is not your passion. I am not saying that you can’t relax, but I’m saying that before you choose a life goal or a ‘passion’, be sure it’s something that you, in your heart, really enjoy and love doing.

 

Life Lesson #7 – Relationships can be your greatest teacher.

I feel that everyone should do a lessons learned exercise after each relationship AND after every couple of years in a marriage. Each relationship is a reflection of yourself (whether good or bad). Subconsciously it’s a reflection of our deepest insecurities and needs. And if you really take the time to reflect the good or bad times, it is a window into your soul. Taking the time to review your past will be time well spent.

 

Life Lesson #8– Don’t sleep on the power of the internet

There are thousands upon thousands of people making a good amount of money online. The BEST thing about online business is that is has no face. So you can no longer say your being judged by your race, background, lack of a degree, etc. The internet levels the playing field. Quality content speaks louder than your religion, skin color, etc. Start looking into the power of it today.

 

Life Lesson #9 – Don’t be a“put off’ person.

I spent many years putting off things because I was waiting for the situation to get better or for ‘something’ to happen first. News Flash – I bet you can think of a hundred reasons to keep living how you are today and not changing; SOMETHING will always be in the way or be a reason to delay. Don’t put off your happiness. If you can do something that makes you happy today, without ruining the lives of others, then do it.

 

Life Lesson #10 – What you say/write is your own lesson.

As I write to you, I write to myself because what comes out of us either verbally or in the written form is often the thing very thing that we (ourselves) need to work on.

Thanks for taking the time to read. While I love the fact that I was able to share my outlook with the readers of DLM, this simple list has helped me put my life into perspective and it has raised my awareness to areas that I need to constantly work on. Where is your list? Is it only in your mind and easily forgotten and overridden?

Written by Nashunda Bolden. Nashunda doesn’t have a website or anything to sell. She just wanted to share her life with us.


Surreal And Dreamlike Photography By Rosie Hardy

By
Adam East
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Rosie Hardy is a worldwide photographer based in Manchester, UK, and you are really lucky if you live near her, because she is offering workshops to those interested in learning her photography techniques, and believe me, from what we’ve seen, there are lots of things to learn.

What’s also interesting is that some of her best works are actually her own self portraits from the 365 Days project (one self portrait every day for a year). The girl in the first photo bellow is Rosie herself.

Best Portraits Of 2011

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Decorative Wall Stickers

By
Adam East
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Feeling like you need something to pull that room together? Whether it is blik organic wall stickers to liven up your bland dorm room wall or chandelier wall stickers to add elegance to your living room, These decorative wall stickers and decals will do just that! Here is some good ideas for your bedroom.

7 REASONS WHY MEN LEAVE

By
Adam East
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Reasons Why Men Leave can be puzzling! A guy can be all over you one second and the next, he’s out the door. Guys are questionable sometimes, but below, I’m going to detail out the top 7 reasons why men leave their girlfriends and what goes on in their heads! After all, you would think, there’s gotta be some substantial reasons why men leave right?
 

1. CHEATING

I hate to break it to you, but sometimes, one of the reasons why men leave is because they are cheating on you. I’m not saying every guy cheats, nor am I saying that this is one of the top reasons why men leave, but it does happen. If you suspect that your man is cheating, bring it up to him, talk to him about it and see what happens.
 

2. DISHONESTY

A man likes to know that he can trust his girlfriend. The second that something goes amiss or he suspects dishonesty, it can create a riff. Being dishonest with your man can be over something little or something big. For example, lying about your age is no different than lying about your past. If you’re honest with your man, it’ll be ten times better for your relationship!
 

3. JEALOUSY

If you’re insecure about your guy leaving you and you’re constantly trying to make him jealous to prove that he likes you more – it could be one of the reasons he leaves you. Guys like to feel secure in their relationship and if a girl is constantly boiling up jealous feelings, it can make a lot of tension. So ladies, chill out on the jealousy and just be secure in your relationship!
 

4. INDIFFERENCE

Typically, when a guy actually enters into a relationship and things get serious, he constantly is seeking his girlfriend’s approval. If you’re constantly indifferent and don’t get excited when he is, it could mean that he is on his way out the door. Remember, a guy has a really sensitive ego, so make sure that you give in sometimes and mirror his moods!
 

5. CONSTANT NAGGING

Nagging in a relationship is going to happen. It’s one thing to nag though and another to constantly nag about everything. The Better Half and I have this discussion all the time. Ladies, if he’s doing or not doing something that you need, talk to him about it in a calm way, don’t nag him about it constantly.
 

6. NEGATIVITY

Bad days happen to everyone. I had one recently that was just horrific! If you are constantly having bad days though and are constantly negative, it might be time to stop taking it out on your man and to take some much needed girl time!
 

7. SHE’S UNAPPRECIATIVE

Finally, if your man is feeling ignored, if he is feeling that he isn’t appreciated, it’s definitely one of the top reasons for him to leave. Men like to know that their women love them and that they are appreciated! So ladies, show ‘em some love!

There are tons of reasons why men leave, but these are the top 7. If you have a feeling that your man might be looking for a reason to leave, take a look at this list and see if these are any of the reasons!

10 Commandments for a Good Life

By
Adam East
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A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, need less, smile often and realize how fortunate you are right now.  It’s about the simple pleasures that make you happy, the compassionate deeds you perform, the personal goals you strive to achieve, the relationships you nurture and the legacy you leave behind.

So starting today, choose to take control.  Here are ten commandments to help you live a good life.

And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count.
It’s the life in your years.
– Abraham Lincoln

I.  I am not perfect and I will not try to be.

Think of how many things don’t get done in this world simply because people are waiting for the perfect time, place and circumstance.

The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists.  It rewards people who get things done.  And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time.

ll.  I cannot, and will not try, to please everyone.

No matter what you do or how you do it, there will always be people that disagree with what you’re doing.  That’s life.  So don’t try please everyone.  Simply do what I know is right.

And remember, it doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, it matters how many people do.

III.  I will take part in something I believe in.

This could be anything.  Some people take an active role in their city council, some find refuge in religious faith, some join social clubs supporting causes they believe in and others find passion in their careers.  In each case the psychological outcome is the same.  They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in.  This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.

IV.  I will prioritize my obligations and do important things first.

Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly.  It’s the only way to get things done.

It’s the only way to turn a dream into a reality.

V.  I will choose my friends wisely.

Your friends are family you choose.  So make sure you choose friends who are worthy of your time and attention.

Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be.  Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.

VI.  I will help others when I am able.

In life, you get what you put in.

When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.  The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.

VII.  I will focus on the positive.

Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it.

The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.  Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on the next positive step forward.

VIII.  I can only be me.

Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.”  Live by this statement.

There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.  The only shoes you can occupy are your own.  If you aren’t being yourself, you aren’t truly living – you’re merely existing.  And ask yourself this:  If you don’t like who you really are, why should I like you?

Trying to be somebody you’re not is not atractive.  Be you.  That’s when you’re beautiful.

IX.  I will be here now.

Life is happening right now.  Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, practice being and living in the present moment.

Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  Don’t miss it.

X.  Life never gets any better, only my perception of it does.

The world around you changes when you change.

If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.  The opposite is also true.  The choice is yours to make.

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Amazing Portraits Drawn With Cassette Tapes

By
Adam East
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Erika Iris Simmons play with random things and make them into composite art. She doesn’t really add any paint or pigments… She usually just take things apart and re-arrange them in weird ways, cutting away pieces when necessary. She created amazing portraits with cassette tapes and named the series “The Ghost in the Machine”.

She explained on her website, “The Ghost in the Machine” series was inspired by some strange ideas. How at one level we are cellular beings and another we are a single “self.” The single cassette tape I thought of as representing the mind. The tape ribbon represents our thoughts, the data within. Taking that data – those bits of memory – and rearranging them to form what we see as a face is my way of finding a “ghost in the machine.”

Celebrity Portraits Made From Thousand of Circles

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Adam East
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Artist Ben Heine created a series of amazing celebrities portraits made with just circles placing one by one. This project is called “Digital Circilism”. Each circle has a different size, color and tone and it takes between 100 to 180 hours for a single portrait.

(via: Designswan)

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